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Taking time for yourself
There is one thing that takes us years to fully understand.
The time we do not give ourselves, no one will ever give back to us. Not a boss who says they are “counting on you”. Not children who assume you will always be there. Not a partner who believes you are doing fine just because you do not complain.That time is yours to take. Actively. Almost aggressively, at first. Because no one else will offer it to you.We were never taught how
If you are reading these lines thinking, “Yes, but I just can’t do it, I feel too guilty, I don’t dare,” that is completely normal. You are not the problem. We were raised to be available. To respond quickly. To anticipate the needs of others before they even express them. To never be the one who causes an inconvenience. And then one day, we find ourselves at 30, 35, or 40 years old, with a career, a family, a social life, and the strange feeling that we no longer truly know what we want for ourselves. Not what our body wants. Not what our desire wants. Not what our pleasure wants. That is where it all begins. Not a moment before.A phrase that comes up often
In the offices of sexologists and therapists specializing in female well-being, there is a phrase that comes up almost systematically after a few sessions. It isn’t “I am sad.” Nor “I am tired.” Or “I have relationship issues.” It is: “I no longer know what makes me feel good.” It is dizzying when you think about it. Because it is not a question of orgasm, frequency, or desire. It is a question of identity. When we no longer know what makes us feel good, we no longer entirely know who we are. The good news is that it can be rediscovered. Not through ten years of therapy. Not by leaving for a spiritual retreat. Simply by giving yourself time. Regularly. Unconditionally.Why focus on intimate well-being?
Because it is the part of the body we visit the least. We take care of our skin every day. We go to the osteopath when our back hurts. We do yoga, we run, we swim. We massage our feet sometimes, our necks often. But our intimacy? Often, we only touch it in two contexts: during sexual intercourse, or during a gynecological exam. Two situations where, precisely, we are not truly listening to it. We are either performing or enduring. Yet, this part of the body deserves infinitely more attention than that. Not for pleasure in a performative sense, but for knowledge. For awareness. For the simple fact that it is your body, and it has every right to be fully inhabited.The benefits—let’s be practical
No sugarcoating here. When you start dedicating this time to yourself regularly, here is what changes. And it is well-documented, not just a matter of personal experience. Sleep improves. Oxytocin (the hormone of pleasure and attachment naturally released during an orgasm), whether solo or not, promotes faster sleep onset and deeper rest. Menstrual pain decreases. Several studies show that regular sexual activity helps alleviate cramps throughout the cycle. Stress levels drop. Genuinely. Cortisol (the stress hormone) plummets after an intimate moment, and the effect lasts for several hours. The relationship with your body changes. This is perhaps the most crucial point. You stop viewing it as something to monitor, correct, and present, and you finally begin to inhabit it. A major difference.What actually blocks us
When women are asked why they do not take more time for themselves, the answer is rarely what you would expect. It isn’t shame. Or at least, not as much as it used to be. The vast majority of women have moved past that. It isn’t a lack of desire. The desire is there, almost always. Sometimes buried, but definitely there.
What actually blocks us is the guilt of “unproductive” time. That little voice that says: “I have a thousand things to do, I cannot just lie down for half an hour for nothing.”
And that is precisely the voice you need to learn to silence. Because it is wrong. This time is never wasted. It is actually one of the most profitable moments of your week, in the sense that it infuses everything else: your clarity, your patience, your energy, and your decisions.
How to truly begin
There is no magical three-step method. But there are a few principles that help most of the time. Start small. Not an hour. Not an elaborate ritual with candles, oils, and a Spotify playlist. Just ten minutes. No phone. No objective. Just you, in your own skin. Choose a fixed time. Not “when I have the time.” Schedule it into your week just like you would any other appointment. Because it is one. With someone incredibly important: yourself. Accept that it might feel strange at first. The first time you consciously grant yourself this time, you might feel awkward. As if you are cheating, or stealing something. It is just old habits resisting. It passes. Do not measure it. Do not evaluate it. Do not ask yourself if “it worked.” The only criterion is: did I do it? If yes, you have won. The rest will follow.And what about physical intimacy?
This is a frequent question: “Do I absolutely have to masturbate to take care of myself?” The honest answer: no. But often, yes. No, because taking time for yourself can take a thousand forms. A bath, a book, a walk, a moment of silence. All of that counts. But often yes, because physical intimacy with oneself is one of the most powerful ways to return to who you are. It is what reconciles body and mind, bringing awareness back to where it belongs. It is also, let’s be honest, one of the most neglected aspects of our busy lives as women. If you are not used to it, there is no pressure. Start by simply listening. Through attentive, aimless touch. See what comes up. The rest is learned by trying, completely free of judgment.The object, at some point
There should be no dogma surrounding intimate objects. Some women use them their whole lives and do just fine without them, while others discover them at 40 and feel like they missed out on twenty years.
What you need to remember is this: a good object is a companion of discovery, not a substitute, a palliative solution, or a quick fix.
The right object is one that respects you. One that suggests without imposing. One that leaves you in total control of the intensity, the rhythm, and the moment. And—a detail that is far from minor—it should make you want to take it out of its case, simply because it is beautiful and was thoughtfully designed for you.
That is what changes everything. The difference between a tool and an object of genuine care.